It’s okay to change your identity. It’s okay to discover new and different versions of yourself and it is okay to move forward and completely change your identities as they come and go and are. To be human is to be fluid, to change. You are not invalid for doing so.
there is this one thing that i’m always doing—
it’s taking ownership of almost everything i can find.
i do this because it’s easier.
because it’s simpler to say, ‘I paid for this, it is mine now.’
than to kiss somebody and ask them, ‘does this mean we
love each other now?’
because it’s easier to find something and take it
to the cashier and say, ‘please wrap this up for me,
I don’t want it to break on the way home.’
but somehow it always does.
somehow i find a way to break somebody or
something before it’s in my hands, unwrapped.
this is what i’m always doing—
my clumsy boulder heart is always breaking buildings
before i can put both feet through the front door.
Salma Deera, Love As The Sound Of Tills and Demolition